Whether or not you take a ‘wait and see’ approach, you must
have some ideas about what you desire, or have certain preferences
The extent to which your date shows any of the traits that
you prefer can set the tone for future dates, or be an indicator of what
potential the date has to become a part of your life
Though important, expectation and anticipation about your
first date has to be managed so that it doesn’t have a harmful or negative
effect
This can happen if you are so filled and overwhelmed by what
your are thinking – what you are expecting and anticipating – that you expect
exactly that to happen
You would then fail to see and to appreciate the true
personality of your date
If that happens, then the purpose of going on a date will
have been futile and useless
For the first date, it’s best if you simply ensure that the
person meets certain of your basic expectations on qualities such as having
acceptable behavior, being courteous, mannerly, and exhibiting appropriate
behavior and mannerisms in public
.
While it will therefore be virtually impossible for you to
not have a high level of anticipation about your first date, you have to make
sure it is managed so that it doesn’t become overwhelming and prevents you from
enjoying the moment and discovering aspects of your date’s true personality.
You therefore don’t want to have so much anticipation and
expectation that it obscures the purpose of your first date.